A very complex subject is what we are about to delve into -- EMOTIONS! Come along with me as we journey into the realm of your emotions and how to control them.
Controlling Your Emotions In A Relationship
You are probably more likely to let your emotions get the better of you in your relationship than in any other situation. Relationships are very important and you do not want any impulsive behaviour due to unwanted emotions to ruin it. Use the proven tips in this article to control your emotions in your relationship.
Step Away Calmly and don’t Storm Off
If you are in a heated argument with your partner then you can easily lose control of your emotions and do something that you will regret afterward. A lot of people will just “storm off” when an argument gets to a certain point. The problem is with this that you abruptly end the conversation which doesn’t help you or your partner.
When you storm off in the middle of an argument you can make your partner even angrier than they were before. They will be frustrated that you suddenly took off. The better thing to do is to tell your partner that you need to step away for a few minutes to gather your thoughts. Tell them that you need to clear your head by taking a walk or doing something else.
Don’t Focus on a bad thing your Partner did or said
Something that can result in you losing control of your emotions is to focus on something bad that your partner did or said. This happens a lot in arguments between partners and it rarely ends well. Your partner did or said something that incensed you and you cannot get this out of your head and keep coming back to it.
It is not going to be easy to stop doing this if you have done it for a while. But it is necessary so that you can be in control of your emotions when you are in a heated situation with your partner. Keep working at this to get the best results.
Use Deep Breathing
When you breathe deeply it will help to clear your head and you will be better placed to control your emotions. If your partner says something disrespectful to you, for example, breathe deeply into your stomach, hold the breath for 3 seconds and then exhale slowly. Practice this so that you can do it automatically.
Interrupt your Emotions
At the height of a heated argument, your adrenaline levels will probably rise and if you are not careful you can lose control. This is where you are the most vulnerable to letting your emotions get the better of you and doing something you will regret.
Use techniques to interrupt your emotions. We have discussed two good techniques for this in the article which are stepping away and breathing deeply. When you interrupt an emotion, you will take away some of its power.
Avoid Fights with your Partner
Something bad happened between you and your partner. They said or did something that made you mad and you cannot stop thinking about this. This builds up throughout the day and then it is time for you to go home. All you can think about is having it out with your partner and starting a fight with them.
Do everything that you can to avoid getting into a fight with your partner as you will be the most vulnerable to your emotions. Instead, learn to talk things through calmly with your partner. Do not make any snide comments or be aggressive.
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